Mediation, as part of the alternative dispute resolution processes, is where a third party, a mediator,
assists the other parties in a dispute to negotiate an amicable settlement. Mediation is a structured
negotiation process with specific dynamics that an ordinary negotiation lacks. Normally it is a
voluntary process, private and confidential, where the mediator facilitates the structured negotiation
between the parties. Mediation is a peaceful and internationally accepted solution to end conflict and
disputes of any nature and puts the disputing parties in control of the outcome.
There are different styles of mediation, to name a few:
3. narrative; and
In facilitative mediation, the mediator is in control of the process and the parties are in control of the
outcome. The mediator facilitates a structured process and focuses on the underlying needs and
interests of both parties versus the positions they took and then assists both parties in finding suitable
options for an amicable settlement.
In evaluative mediation, the mediator structures the process and also directly influences the outcome
of the mediation. The mediator focuses on the legal rights of the parties rather than their needs and
interests and makes recommendations to the parties as to the outcome of the dispute based on legal
concepts of reasonableness and fairness.
In narrative mediation, creative solutions are developed in contrast to the normal bargaining and
compromise approaches. The parties become less attached to the problem when the problem, through
externalization, is objectified and placed outside themselves. The parties and the mediator then work
together as a team to find more creative solutions towards resolving the problem.
In transformative mediation the parties are in control of the process and the outcome and the
mediator will follow their lead. During transformative mediation, the parties specifically meet
to give recognition to each other's needs, interest, value and points of view. The process is based
on values of empowerment and has the potential that some of the parties or all parties or their
relationships might be transformed during the mediation.
These different styles of mediation or combinations thereof have a specific purpose in creating
peace in the world and, together with emotional intelligent negotiations that focus on common
values, will contribute towards the most effective managing of conflict.
"The peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus."
"The God of peace be with you."
peace and happiness. However when conflict arises turmoil increase and start to threaten the security
and stability of families, communities and countries. Conflict in any society can compromise peace
on earth if not resolved in time.
"Where do wars and fights come from among you? Do they not come from your desires for pleasure
that war in your members? You lust and do not have. You murder and covet and cannot obtain. You
fight and war. Yet you do not have because you do not ask. You ask and do not receive, because you
ask amiss, that you may spend it on your pleasures. Adulterers and adulteresses! Do you know that
friendship with the world is enmity with God? Whoever therefore wants to be a friend of the world
makes himself an enemy of God. Or do you think that the Scripture says in vain, "The Spirit who
dwells in us yearns jealously"? But He gives more grace. Therefore He says: "God resist the proud,
But gives grace to the humble."
Christian Mediation Ministries will confidentially assist any party when so requested - to analyze a
conflict to the root of the problem and then negotiate or mediate with the conflicting parties to find
an amicable solution that will satisfy the interests and needs of the conflicting parties and restore
love, peace and happiness between the conflicting parties in any family, community or country.
"Therefore if there is any consolation in Christ, if any comfort of love, if any fellowship of the Spirit, if
any affection and, mercy, fulfill my joy by being like-minded, having the same love, being of one
accord, of one mind. Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of
mind let each esteem others better than himself. Let each of you look out not only for his own
interests but also for the interests of others."
"Judge not, that you be not judged. For with what judgment you judge, you will be judged; and with the
measure you use, it will be measured back to you. And why do you look at the speck in your brother's
eye, but do not consider the plank in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, "Let me
remove the speck from your eye"; and look, a plank is in your own eye? Hypocrite! First, remove the
plank from your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye."
"And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you."
"God made peace with everything in heaven and on earth by means of Christ's blood on the cross."
Should you consider resolving your CONFLICT and make use of our mediation services, contact us here.
Online mediation is a cost-effective form of mediation whereby a world-class mediator calms down
strong emotions and assists the parties separated by long distance video conferencing to negotiate
amicable solutions. Conflicts resolved online provide the following benefits:
1. Saving on costs of travel and time away from home or work.
2. Access to a world-class mediator irrespective of where you live.
3. Prevention of lawsuits, settling of lawsuits or disputes that could become lawsuits cost-effectively
4. Flexibility regarding mediation that suits your schedule.
5. Privacy of your own office or home .
Christian Mediation Ministries uses SKYPE for online mediation. The computer used must have a web
camera for the mediator to be able to see and hear you, reasonably fast access to the Internet, a
working modern web browser. Privacy is important and therefore you must access the computer for
mediation in a private place at the office or at home.
The on-line mediation can take a couple of hours to a number of days but is flexible and easier to
schedule sessions at your convenience. To utilize our online mediation , please contact us here.
"God has called us to live in peace."
1 CORINTHIANS 7:15